The gay rights debate, and in particular the gay marriage debate, is irritating. The reason is that the two sides have no common starting point for their debate.
I believe that God created Adam and Eve, man and woman, and that this is the basis for intimate relationships in society. God created Eve specifically for Adam: this relationship was unique. Marriage is the unique relationship between a man and a woman and between them and God. Marriage is modeled upon the relationship between Adam and Eve and between them and God. I do not believe that a society, under God, should condone and legitimize intimate, sexual relationships between two men or two women in the context of marriage.
Choice is a popular argument: that homosexuality is not a choice. I accept the words of my gay friends when they say that they feel attracted to others of the same sex. I believe the science that shows people have proclivities toward certain behaviors. Genetics, in part, determines who we are, or maybe who we can become. But this is a slippery argument. Genetic science has shown that humans are prone to all sorts of behaviors, and those behaviors manifest who we are.
Those of us against gay marriage are frequently portrayed as bigots and likened to racists. When I interact with a person, I cannot see his sexuality. In fact, I couldn’t care less about that. I am concerned about how I will treat him, how he will treat me, what we can learn from each other or enjoy together, etc… In fact, often a pro-gay marriage person will point out how gay another is based upon the way he speaks or carries himself. This IS prejudiced.
Finally, I ask why our government regulates, and sometimes encourages, marriage. In my opinion, it is because We the People recognized that marriage as defined above, and family which derives from marriage, is a cornerstone of a thriving society. Perhaps our government should not regulate such a thing. But please do not tell me that my beliefs as described above are hateful, or that I do not have a right to express these beliefs through our democratic process.